The Holidays are here, and even though this time of year is really about just being together with the people you love, it never hurts to make them feel extra special with a gift if you can!
I think sometimes though, the true meaning of the holidays gets lost in the busy-bodied, flustered shopping sprees that encourage us to buy more, and more, and more to prove our love and care to the people around us. The truth is though, that most people enjoy the gifts they receive that are a reflection of careful consideration.
That’s why this year I thought it would be fun to put together a gift guide for best friends inspired by one of my favorite books, The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. The love languages — Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Gift Giving — are a great way to explore how you receive and express love. If you don’t know what your primary love language is, take the quiz here, and encourage your friends to take it, too!
To me, this makes the season feel more intentional and personal, and gives me a chance to show my best friends how much I consider them and want to honor the way they best like to receive love! So here is my 2021 Love Language Gift Guide, I hope you love it!
WORDS OF AFFIRMATION: For the bestie who loves to be told they are appreciated, important, beautiful, and valuable to you, the best gift is going to be this affirmation journal. With a whole year of positive reflections, you’ll be giving your friend a reason to give their love language to themselves! Pro tip: write a sweet note on some random pages about how much you love them, what they mean to you, and how grateful for them you are. They’ll be able to happen upon them as they work through the journal, and it’s sure to warm their heart all year long!
2. PHYSICAL TOUCH: If your bestie’s primary love language is physical touch, focus on things to make them feel physically comfortable, like this heated blanket! It’ll hug them in all the right places even when you can’t, and will make them feel safe, warm, and secure—who doesn’t want that for their friends?!
3. QUALITY TIME: The quality time bestie gifts are great, because they’re really a gift for the both of you! This bestie is all about uninterrupted bonding time, so plan a day together to do some of your favorite things! Plan a picnic, go to the beach, build a gingerbread house, or pick an activity that’s unique to the two of you! Make it personal, and create an experience that focuses on you being together that you can cherish forever!
4. ACTS OF SERVICE: This best friend most appreciates when their people take things off their plate and help them out by making their practical, everyday life easier! Offer to cook them dinner during a week when you know they have a lot going on, or get them a trial subscription to a meal service like this one to help keep them fed and de-stressed!
5. GIFT GIVING: this one isn’t a free for all—gift giving goes beyond just giving your loved ones “stuff”. They feel most appreciated when they are given gifts that indicate they have been listened to, noticed, or carefully considered. Some ideas: make them a playlist of songs that remind you of them, pick out a book you think they’d like, or listen to what they want—because they’ll probably tell you!
This holiday season, whichever bestie(s) you have, try to be extra intentional in the ways you show them love! If you aren’t getting gifts for anyone this year, maybe take the time to learn about your own love languages and how you can better love yourself this holiday season too. <3